Health & Fitness

Reclaiming Me: Heal Your Childhood Attachment Wounds, People Pleasing, and Complex PTSD for Women

by Cindy Payne

Share this ranking Is this your show? Claim it

Listen on Apple Podcasts RSS feed

Chart positions today · India

Not on the India charts we track today.

If you like Reclaiming Me: Heal Your Childhood…, try…

Healing CPTSD

Latest episodes

E158: Religious Trauma & People Pleasing: Learning to Trust Yourself Again

October 21, 2026 · 15 min

You were taught what to believe before you were old enough to choose. Now you're wondering how much of it is really yours. What if you could start sorting it out gently, without having to decide everything at once? This minisode follows…
E157: Religious Trauma, Attachment & People Pleasing: Growing Up a Preacher’s Kid with Brea Kafentzis, MA, LMHC, LPC, NCC

October 19, 2026 · 1 hr 10 min

What happens when your parents aren’t just your parents, but are treated as synonymous with God? In this episode, I sit down with Brea Kafentzis, a licensed therapist who was once an LPC Associate under my supervision and now specializes…
E156: Stop Rescuing, Start Healing: People Pleasing After Parentification

October 14, 2026 · 20 min

Your chest tightens, your attention snaps to someone else's mood, and you're already planning how to fix it. What if that rush to rescue isn't a flaw, but a reflex you learned as a kid, and one you can learn to pause? This minisode follows…
E155: Parentification and CPTSD: When You Were the Parent in Your Own Childhood

October 12, 2026 · 45 min

You're the one everyone leans on, the first to notice when someone's upset, and the last to ask for help. Nobody hurt you, you were just "so mature." What if that role wasn't a personality trait at all, but something you learned to…
E154: Why Fixing Everything Feels Safer Than Feeling It

October 7, 2026 · 19 min

You make the plan, build the system, and do everything "right," and you're still exhausted. If you're a trauma survivor and a recovering people pleaser, what if the thing you keep trying to fix isn't a problem to solve at all? This…

Show 7 more episodesShow fewer episodes

E153: Burnout and Complex Trauma: When Working Harder Stops Working (with Luke Richardson)

October 5, 2026 · 1 hr 39 min

What if the thing you keep trying to fix isn't a productivity problem at all? If you're a recovering people pleaser or perfectionist, you may have spent years reaching for one more strategy when something deeper was asking you to soften…
E152: CPTSD and Isolation: One Small Practice for Letting Someone In

September 30, 2026 · 15 min

"Build resilience" sounds nice and means nothing until it's specific. Here's one practice, one relationship, one week. Monday's episode introduced the Resilience Questionnaire and the research finding behind it: the single strongest…
E151: The Number That Isn't Your Whole Story: The ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Study and Your Resilience Score

September 28, 2026 · 30 min

"I don't really think my childhood counts — nothing that dramatic happened." If you've ever said some version of that to yourself, this episode is for you. The ACE study followed over 17,000 adults and found something that changed how…
E150: One Tool, Three Patterns: The Anchor Practice for Dissociation, Certainty-Seeking & Comparison

September 23, 2026 · 12 min

Monday's episode named three patterns a lot of listeners recognized in themselves. Today: one tool that works for all three. Underneath drifting away, needing proof, and comparing your present to your past is the same root cause — your…
E149: You're Not Broken, You're Time-Traveling: A Listener Q&A on Presence, Certainty & Comparison

September 21, 2026 · 40 min

Do you ever catch yourself drifting out of a moment you actually wanted to be present for? Or find yourself needing proof that a new relationship is "safe" before you can relax into it? Or notice you're comparing the wonderful people in…
E148: Who Am I Without This Role? A Quick Identity-Rebuilding Practice

September 16, 2026 · 13 min

Still feeling like you lost a piece of yourself along with the role? Let’s find what’s still there. We go deeper into Monday’s reframe, “this role ending doesn’t erase who I’ve become,” with three specific ways to practice it and a short…
E147: Rebuilding Your Identity After a Role Ends: A CPTSD Survivor’s Guide

September 14, 2026 · 36 min

Have you ever felt like you lost yourself the moment a role in your life changed, even a role ending that was healthy, expected, or something you wanted? This episode is about why that disorientation makes complete sense. We explore how…

Full episode archive on Apple Podcasts →

About the show

Are you a woman who has done years of healing work on your attachment trauma, yet still feel unable to let go of people-pleasing and perfectionism? This trauma-informed podcast helps women with complex PTSD heal the lasting impact of childhood attachment wounds from parents and caregivers so you can finally release survival patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create relationships rooted in authenticity, confidence, and emotional safety. Listen each week to learn how to: • Understand how trauma, attachment patterns, and overthinking fuel anxiety, stress, and burnout. • Release perfectionism, people-pleasing, and outdated identities that keep you playing small. • Build healthy boundaries, embodied self-trust, and a grounded sense of purpose and worth. **Ready to begin your healing? Start with the rebrand episode of Reclaiming Me: E66: Why You Can’t Heal Your Attachment Style Without Trauma Work (The Truth Behind the Rebrand of Reclaiming Me). ** I'm your host, Cindy Payne—a licensed professional counselor, certified yoga teacher, and C-PTSD survivor—offers a new episode each Monday, and a Wednesday Midweek Reframe teaching a practical skill or concept, so you can reduce the impact of C-PTSD symptoms and improve relationships. Work With Me: Ready for deeper support? Explore therapy or book a consultation here: cindypayne.com Connect With Me: Send me a message directly on Instagram: @cindypaynerooted or via email: cindy@cindypaynelpc.com This podcast explores the real, human side of growth — from navigating anxiety, imposter syndrome, and codependency to rediscovering presence, confidence, and authenticity. Through honest conversations about vulnerability, leadership, and letting go, we dive into the balance between purpose and rest, mindfulness and action, boundaries and connection. Together, we unpack the layers of trauma, stress, and exhaustion that keep us from fulfillment, and explore how healing begins when we choose awareness, compassion, and alignment over overwhelm.