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The Regulated Parent

by Afshan Tafler

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Ep. 60 How Do I Know If I'm Accommodating My PDA, Autistic Child the Right Way?

October 17, 2026 · 1 hr 4 min

Am I accommodating my PDA, autistic child, or am I giving in? If you swing between the two and can't tell which is right, this episode is for you. Part 4 of a four-part series on when your PDA, autistic child can't separate from you, and…
Ep. 59 Will They Ever Learn to Be Okay Without Me? How to Help Your PDA, Autistic Child Separate From You

October 10, 2026 · 1 hr 6 min

Your PDA, autistic child can't let you out of the room, not even to go to the bathroom. Here's what's actually happening inside them. If you're in the thick of this, start with my free 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get…
Ep. 58 The 7 Moves That Make Co-Regulating Your PDA, Autistic Child Who Can't Leave Your Side So Much Easier

October 3, 2026 · 45 min

You give and give all day, and then you snap, and then you feel horrible about yourself. Here are the 7 moves that break that cycle. If that cycle is your day, start with my free 3 Shifts guide — the three patterns most parents get pulled…
Ep. 57 When Your PDA, Autistic Child Can't Separate and You Just Want a Break

September 26, 2026 · 51 min

Your child can't let you out of their sight — and you're exhausted. Here are the 7 things happening in your nervous system that nobody tells you about. If this episode landed for you, start with my free 7 Truths guide — for the parent who…
Ep. 56 Shouldn't I Be Teaching My Child That Hitting Is Wrong? (Part 3)

August 29, 2026 · 57 min

It's the fear so many parents of PDA and autistic kids carry: that today's aggression means something frightening about their child's future. In Part 3 of this series I gently take that fear apart, and offer a completely different way to…

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Ep. 55 What to Do When Your PDA or Autistic Child Is Hitting You (Part 2)

August 22, 2026 · 1 hr 2 min

You don't want to be hit — and yet every option feels wrong. You walk away, they follow. You close the door, they punch it. You stand there, and you're the one getting hurt. There's no good choice, and underneath it all is that trapped…
Ep. 54 Why You Can’t Stay Calm When Your PDA or Autistic Child Is Hitting You (Part 1)

August 15, 2026 · 52 min

You’ve been told to “just stay calm” while your child rages, hits, or destroys things — and then quietly beaten yourself up when you couldn’t. Here’s the truth: you are not supposed to feel calm in those moments. It isn’t possible — and…
Ep. 53 The Movements That Rewired Her Sons' Brains — and Kept Her Alive

August 1, 2026 · 1 hr 17 min

It was 1 a.m., and Alma Galván was in tears. Both of her sons had severe autism, ADHD and sensory differences. Doctors told her to institutionalize her oldest son, and daily two-hour meltdowns had become normal. She remembers thinking…
The #1 Regulation Tool That Cut My Autistic, PDA Child's Meltdowns by 95%

July 18, 2026 · 28 min

If I could offer you one tool that took my PDA, autistic son's aggressive behaviors from 5 hours of daily meltdowns and destruction, to less than 30 minutes a few times a week — would you want it? If the talking is the part you cannot…
Ep. 51 Am I Damaging My Child? The 3 Shame Spirals That Keep Parents of PDA, Autistic, ADHD Kids Stuck

July 4, 2026 · 36 min

"I lost it on my child. I'm damaging them." "My child is still struggling. I must not be doing enough." "We don't fit in anywhere. Something must be fundamentally wrong with us." If you are asking whether you are damaging your child…
Ep. 50 Reclaiming Your Joy and Aliveness — Even When Your Autistic Child Is Still Struggling

June 20, 2026 · 51 min

Have you lost your sense of aliveness? Your ease? Your feeling of well-being — that quiet sense of being at home inside yourself? If you're parenting a PDA, autistic, or high-needs child and somewhere along the way you stopped feeling like…
Ep. 49 The To-Do List Trap: Why Productivity Keeps Parents of High-Needs Kids Dysregulated

June 13, 2026 · 51 min

Do you often feel like you spend so much of your time taking care of your PDA, autistic, ADHD, or high-needs child that nothing else gets done? If you're carrying the grief nobody names, start with my free Meaning guide — and finding your…

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About the show

If you're raising a hypersensitive, high-needs child — including Autism, PDA, OCD, ODD, ADHD, or anxiety — this podcast is for you. I'm Afshan Tafler, a Nervous System Resilience Coach for parents like you. Here, we talk about what most people don’t: how it really feels, how your nervous system responds, and how to find your way back to calm, courage, and connection — even on the hardest days. You're not alone, and you were never meant to do this without support.