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The Reality Between Us
by Aja Rutledge
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Episode releases
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| Date | Combined Rank | Apple Podcasts |
|---|---|---|
| Oct 27 | — | — |
| Oct 20 | #198 | #190 |
| Oct 19 | #184 | #176 |
| Oct 18 | #170 | #159 |
| Oct 17 | #175 | #166 |
| Oct 16 | — | #195 |
| Oct 15 | #166 | #155 |
| Oct 14 | #183 | #174 |
Latest episodes
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Do You Believe Your Own Story? | #17
October 21, 2026 · 22 minWe all have blind spots, and sometimes the person we believe ourselves to be isn't the person we're actually demonstrating ourselves to be. We may genuinely believe we're showing up in certain ways without recognizing that our behavior…
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You Stopped Asking Questions | #16
October 14, 2026 · 16 minCuriosity impacts the way we experience ourselves and the people we're in relationship with. But when we believe we already know someone, we can stop asking questions and start relating to the version of them we've created in our minds…
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Everywhere You Go, There You Are | #15
October 7, 2026 · 24 minHow well we know ourselves affects how we show up in every relationship we’re in. Our moods, patterns, needs, expectations, capacity, and the things we haven’t worked through all come into our relationships with us. When we don’t…
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The Less Obvious Side of Self Trust | #14
September 30, 2026 · 21 minSelf-trust isn’t something we develop once and never have to think about again. It’s an ongoing practice, and sometimes the places where we aren’t trusting ourselves aren’t immediately obvious. We can see what is happening clearly, know…
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Under the Influence of Shame | #13
September 23, 2026 · 25 minShame can be shaping our lives without us even realizing it’s there. Unlike feelings we can easily recognize, shame can sit underneath our reactions, our beliefs about ourselves, and the way we interpret what is happening around us. It can…
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What You Don't Feel, Someone Else Will | #12
September 16, 2026 · 26 minWe can avoid our feelings, refuse to talk about them, or convince ourselves they aren't affecting us. But that doesn't mean they've disappeared. Our feelings are still showing up in how we behave, how we respond to other people, and what…
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What We’re Missing About Attachment | #11
September 9, 2026 · 24 minAttachment styles have become part of how we talk about relationships. We hear about anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, secure attachment, and often use those labels to explain why someone behaves the way they do. But attachment is…
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The Complexity of Feeling Safe | #10
September 2, 2026 · 25 minSafety is one of those things we think we understand. We know what it means to be physically safe, and we may even know what emotional or psychological safety is supposed to look like. But knowing what safety is and actually feeling safe…
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What Hope Won't Let You See | #9
August 26, 2026 · 22 minHope is usually seen as a good thing. It keeps us going. It gives us something to believe in. But sometimes hope can also keep us in situations when everything happening right now is telling us something different. Sometimes we see…
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Wanting the Relationship Is the Easy Part | #8
August 19, 2026 · 25 minWanting a relationship doesn't mean you're equipped to have one. We spend a lot of time thinking about the relationships we want, the kind of people we want in our lives, and what we want those relationships to give us. But how often do we…
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Validation Isn't the Problem. You Are. | #7
August 12, 2026 · 24 minValidation and agreement are not the same thing. Somewhere along the way, many of us learned that if we acknowledge another person's experience, we're saying they're right. But what if validation simply means making room for their reality…
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The Reality You're Responding To | #6
August 5, 2026 · 25 minHow many times have you been absolutely certain you knew what someone meant...only to find out later that's not what was happening at all? In this episode, we're exploring how the state we're in changes what we think we're seeing. Because…
About the show
The Reality Between Us explores what happens underneath relationships.
Through the lens of trauma, nervous systems, self-awareness, and relational patterns, Aja Rutledge examines the forces quietly shaping how we connect, conflict, communicate, avoid, trust, and make meaning of our experiences. Most relationship advice focuses on behavior. This podcast explores what's driving the behavior.
Rather than offering formulas or quick fixes, The Reality Between Us looks beneath the surface of our relationships, with partners, family, friends, coworkers, and most importantly, ourselves, to understand the hidden dynamics influencing how we show up and why we keep repeating the patterns we do. Because what happens between people rarely starts between people. Most relationship advice is looking in one place. We're going to look somewhere else.